Wednesday, August 30, 2006

The Good Stuff

Milk and cookies are great. They must be one of the most satisfying snack food combinations available.

I think it's good to find pleasure in things, no matter how inconsequential they are.

Sunday, August 27, 2006

People who upset you are rarely worth getting upset over

People can upset you in two ways: intentionally or unintentionally.

Being hurt unintentionally is usually caused by a person being thoughtless and not realising how something would affect you. If this is the case, that person needs to be told, in a calm manner, exactly why their behaviour has upset you.
Hopefully this will resolve the situation.
Unless, the person fails to recognise how their behaviour has troubled you , or worse still, the person doesn't seem to care.

Someone who intentionally upsets you usually has a strong motive, and that motive is often revenge.
So try to discover what has caused such rancour. Did you wrong this person in someway? If so, is it possible to rectify the situation by apologising/explaining?
Was the action taken by that person in proportion to the upset they felt?

If this person does not want to return to being on good terms with you, the behaviour was completely uncalled for, or they do not care that they have made you unhappy, then take immediate steps to distance yourself from this person.

The people in our lives have a lot of power over us. If there are people in your life who are abusing this power and making you unhappy, take it away from them.

Yes, you may have once been so close and have lots of happy memories. You can still have those memories, just accept that having this person in your life is no longer a good thing.

Taking such a decision may result in a drastic shrinking of your social circle, but it is far less stressful to have a few friends who bring you happiness, then a dozen who cause you sorrow.

That is why the people who upset you are rarely worth getting upset over. If they genuinely care for you and are sorry, then rather then get upset, it's better to discuss the matter with that person and avoid any repetition.

If they do not care for you, they are not worth your tears or your time.

Time is finite, don't waste yours on people who don't deserve it.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006

Blogger dance of rejection

Blogger are currently offering some new fancy beta thing. How nice for them. However, this means that I can't get to my Dashboard unless I sign in, attempt to sign up for the beta version and then am politely rejected as "one or more of your blogs cannot be moved over".

This happens every time I want to see my Dashboard and that's quite a lot now I've been trolled into having comment moderation on.

Enough with your teasing ways Blogger, it is most unseemly!

Saturday, August 19, 2006

The camouflage of charity

Now that there is a supposed ceasefire, there are discussions about the money needed to rebuild Lebanon and where this money should come from.

In twee glass and china shops everywhere, there are signs with various variations on the theme of "You break it, you pay for it".

If you destroy something, there are consequences. Unless of course, you are the state of Israel. Then, there are only justifications. No apologies, no reparations, no hope for those suffering.

Unless Israel and the world is made to see that this destruction is wrong and unacceptable, Lebanon will never be safe, so what use is any charity money?

The shifting of the situation in Lebanon to just another charitable cause masks the injustice that has occurred there.

Lebanon has been violated and what the world is doing is just handing it make up to hide the injuries, the trauma, while murmuring "There, there. I'm sure Israel didn't mean for all this to happen. They're very nice really. You must have done something to upset them....."

Thursday, August 10, 2006

The bad words and good words

I have been having problems recently with someone posting persistently abusive and anti-Islamic comments on my blog.

Despite the fact that this is my blog, I will write what I want and delete whatever I want, the person feels very slighted about having their comments deleted.

To spare other people having to read the comments, I've switched the comment moderation on.

This commenter has a female pseudonym and their diatribes, focused on how they feel Islam treats women and hijab blah, blah,blah, because they care about women and women's dignity so much.

Today that commenter posted that I was a "F***ing Whore". The same insult so often used by men, grasping at something to silence a woman into submission.

Well, I won't be quiet. I enjoy blogging far too much, for the way it allows me to explore my feelings and for the wonderful people it has brought me into connect with (especially you, A.K).

As for the commenter, I truly feel sympathy for you. Please believe that I pray very hard for you, for the hatred which consumes your heart and your life to be lifted.

To anyone else who wants to bring their anti-Islamic pity party to this blog, hear this:

I am Muslim. Insha Allah, I will remain within the faith of Islam until my last breath leaves my body and beyond.

Becoming Muslim is the best thing I have ever done. The joy and peace my faith gives me is immense and words cannot adequately describe it.

I love the Prophet (pbuh) more then anyone who has ever walked the earth. I love him (pbuh). I love the Companions, I love the Mothers of the Believers (May Allah be pleased with them all) I love the Qur'an I love the Sunnah.

I love the changes that serving Allah has brought into my life, all the questions it has answered, all the fears it has eased.

So please Allah, nothing, nothing, no comment you make, no link you post, no insult you use will change any of this. All it will do is strengthen my faith, make me turn to Allah even more.

La ilaha il Allah, Muhammad-ur-Rasool-Allah

Friday, August 04, 2006

The power of Alhamdulilah

One of the most used words by Muslims is Alhamdulilah, which means All praise to Allah or put even more simply: Thank God.

Alhamdulilah is probably one of the words converts learn first too. It has the advantage of being comparatively easy to pronounce and it can be used in many situations.

There is something very satisfying about saying Alhamdulilah, it's phonetics are soothing, to say it is like exhaling deeply.

As well as a word of praise, it's one of reassurance and remembrance.

Alhamdulilah. Thank You. For all the blessings I remember, for all the blessings I forget and more importantly, I thank You for Your existance, for Your Light and Guidance. Your perfection and permanance beyond my understanding as well as the beauty of Your creation that I can witness and experience.
All praise is due to You. Ameen